Stop Breaking Promises to Yourself

by | Jan 24, 2024

In college, I had a rugby buddy who I’d train with at the gym almost daily.


It was the summer before my senior year and I decided to stay in Tucson (University of Arizona) so I could study for the GRE’s as well as train for the upcoming rugby season.


Early into our summer training, he started to show up late to our workouts.


He’d always apologize and make an excuse for why he couldn’t get there on time.


On multiple occasions, I’d walk by his house on the way to the gym to get him, and he’d still be asleep and/or hungover. If he did make it to the gym, he’d be mentally checked out.


After a couple of weeks of this, I stopped even trying.


I lost respect for him not because he didn’t show up, but because he said he would, and didn’t.


He was no longer trustworthy in my eyes.


Now, here’s the kicker…


What happens when we break promises to ourselves?


What happens when we say we’re going to do something but don’t do it?


Naturally, we lose trust and confidence in ourselves because we’re not living in integrity – we’re not doing what we say we’re going to do.


  • “I’m going to the gym today”
  • “I’m going to walk 10k steps”
  • “I’m going to start eating better”
  • “I’m going to drink less”


Our success is contingent on being able to uphold the promises we make to ourselves and no one else.


A requisite is to show up and do what you say you’re going to do…


Just like you would if it was a promise you made to your spouse, kids, or closest friends.


You would do whatever it took to uphold those promises: wake up early, stay up late, and sacrifice in whatever way was necessary to fulfill your commitments and

be a person of integrity.


When you lose trust in yourself, you’re setting yourself up for failure.


Instead, start to make daily promises that you can keep, so that you can generate inertia…


Stack wins…


Build confidence…


And become the type of person who honors the most important commitments of all…


The commitments to yourself and who you want to become.


And if you need any help, just reach out.


I got you.


Your coach,




Profile Image Benjamin Brown
Founder / Head coach
Body Systems


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